Ask four questions:
- Am I okay? Is the baby okay?
- What happens if we do the intervention?
- What happens if we don't do the intervention?
- Can we have a couple of minutes to talk about it?
The informational support of a doula is invaluable when problems arise during labor and birth. In the throes of labor, no one has the time or energy to research the pros and cons of various birth interventions. Doctors don't always take the time to discuss the risks and benefits before expecting a decision from parents. Sometimes, with the right information, you feel empowered to choose to do nothing for a little while longer, and sometimes, problems will resolve themselves.
There are times when intervention is necessary and unavoidable. During these times, a doula can help you enjoy the experience of birthing your child, even if it isn't happening the way you wanted. An unwanted but necessary induction can still be a good birth. An unwanted but necessary c-section can still be a good birth. Even when your plan falls apart, it can still be a joyous, special, memorable time as you welcome your new baby into the world.