Kaitlyn's birth story begins long before the first contraction--in
fact, it begins before her conception. (Yes, this is a long story.) After my triumphant, but very
stressful homebirth, Stephen was adamant that our next birth needed to
happen in the hospital. I was adamant that I would not, and could not
have another baby in the hospital. My first birth had so deeply
traumatized me that I could barely wrap my brain around the idea of
birthing in a hospital again. I am a processor, and especially things
that affect me so deeply take a lot of time to process. I had been
mulling over my birth options off and on since Daniel's birth. I wanted
to honor Stephen's wishes, but I really struggled because for me, the
hospital was a place where my wishes were not honored and where my
deepest fears in birth were realized.
Finally, after much
thinking, praying, mulling, and struggling, I felt very clear direction
from the Lord that I needed to submit my desires to my husband's
leadership in this matter. I began to seriously consider my hospital
options. My experience as a doula, and my exposure to the Atlanta birth
community had given me invaluable information about the various
obstetric practices. As a VBAC mom, I knew the only practices with
excellent records for VBAC were Intown Midwifery and Dr. Tate. Several
things began to weigh in Intown's favor. For one, the things Dr. Tate
was especially known for had not been my issues (such as his skill in
dealing with breech through ECV or vaginal breech delivery, as well as
his ability to deal with malpositions through the use of forceps during
labor). I knew the midwives at Intown had a reputation for being very
patient with slow labor and that they offered hospital waterbirth. I
personally resonate deeply with the midwifery model of care, so I
naturally gravitated toward their practice. And the fact that they had a
great back-up perinatologist in Dr. Bootstaylor was the final stroke in
their favor. I knew that many of our family members would be reassured
to know the midwives had a high risk specialist available when needed. I
also knew that Dr. Bootstaylor's reputation was of unbending support of
physiologic vaginal birth, and that made me feel better about the
possibility of being under his care.
So, months before
Kaitlyn was even conceived, I had come to the decision that Intown was
my practice of choice, despite the few drawbacks, the main one of which
was the one hour drive to their office and to Atlanta Medical Center
where they practice. And Stephen was on board. I felt so good knowing
that we were on the same page regarding where our next baby would be
born. Not too long after we finally resolved our birth location dilemma (probably our longest standing disagreement ever), we found out we were pregnant again.
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
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